Do and Don’ts of A Hijabi Woman

Allah has created us and knows us best, and He clarified all the rules that we must live by in Quran and Sunnah. A woman has a tendency to reveal her beauty and dress nicely, and Allah knows that He created her with this feeling inside, yet he requested her to keep it to certain people, in order to protect her and appreciate her more. You can still look fashionable, glamorous and beautiful with your modesty and chastity.

وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ ۚ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ (31)
"And tell the believing women to reduce some of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which necessarily appears thereof and to wrap a portion of their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed"
(Surah An-Noor, Verse 31)
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Alhamdulillah, from Allah’s mercy upon us, we are allowed to reveal all our beauty and femininity in our houses, in front of our mahrams (men whom we cannot marry from the family) and other women. We can wear the skinny and the short (covering Awrah), spray our favorite perfume and wear all artificial makeup looks we want! Also, in case of emergencies, like medical reasons, we are allowed to remove our hijab or to reveal parts of our body for necessity. 

Wearing the beautiful crown of hijab means taking the full package and abiding by the rules imposed with it. As long as you please Allah, you will be pleased in Dunya and Akhira (in life and the afterlife). Love yourself and love your hijab, and do not let your Hijab need a Hijab to be rightful! So, read this article with your heart, not just your eyes and ask Allah for steadfastness on the right path. 

Here are some Do and Don’ts of a hijabi woman:

Do:

  1. Wear long, loose and undefining clothes: It is very elegant to be wearing a dress or a skirt with no defining details. It will add a beautiful touch of femininity and serenity to your looks and you will absolutely look gorgeous in them. You can choose nice colors that you like, but that are not extreme, without having the intention to bring attention.  
  2. Cover the chest and wear a longer covering veil: Especially if your outfit is somehow tight on the chest, or has a slot and you want to make sure that nothing will appear from your body, then choose longer veils to wear. Our Signature Maxi hijab versions are the best choice for loose and open chest shirts. Check Voila Maxi and Chic Maxi Styles available in the majority of our collections.
  3. Lower your gaze: As Allah told us, that both men and women are supposed to keep their eyes low: meaning you do not stare at men on the road or any social platform, not even keep eye contact with the men you are having a conversation with for work or serious purposes. 
  4. Show modesty and shyness in your walk, talk and interaction with people: Be a strong yet  decent woman. Reveal piety in your actions and movements.  
  5. Be polite and respectful within the bounds of Islam: A Muslim person, should not have bad words in their dictionary. And I focus on this point for hijabis, because they represent the image of the Muslim woman for others and they are role models for Muslim girls. So let’s respect first the headscarf that we are wearing and hence all means of respect will be applied in our personality. Add to this that we are commanded by our prophet (ﷺ) to show mercy upon children and respect upon elderlies. 

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Don’ts: 

1. Wear Skinny or shape defining clothes 
    2. Tuck your shirt under your pants to make your body look more defined 
      3. Reveal any lock of hair: Not your bangs nor any lock from the side or the back should appear. 

        4. Reveal your earrings: No matter how little or big they are, keep them covered by your headscarf.

        5. Uncover your neck: Your neck is part of the awrah and it should be covered.

          6. Reveal your ankles: Ankles are part of the awrah as well, and should not revealed neither in shape nor in skin color. Consider them just like all body parts that should be covered and do not shorten your skirt or wide pants to show your ankles. 
            7. Wear an anklet: Allah mentioned in Surah An-Noor that women should not wear any form of adornment, specifically on their legs, because they bring high attention. 
              8. Wear short sleeves or lift your sleeves: your arms are part of awrah and should be covered. You can still show your watch or bracelet, placing it over the sleeve itself. 
                9. Wear Perfume: I believe it is enough to mention the say of our beloved prophet (ﷺ), that does not require any explanation:
                  "كُلُّ عَيْنٍ زَانِيَةٌ وَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ إِذَا اسْتَعْطَرَتْ فَمَرَّتْ بِالْمَجْلِسِ فَهِيَ كَذَا وَكَذَا" يَعْنِي زَانِيَةً (رواه الترمذي)
                  Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Every eye is adulterous, and when a woman perfumes herself and passes a company, she is such and such” meaning adulterous (At-Tirmidhi) 
                  10. Wear Makeup/ colored lenses: they are considered an adornment.
                  11. Wear nail polish: It prevents Wudu and it is also a reason for Fitna, just like Makeup, so avoid wearing it in public.
                  12. Wear a hair lifter or any form of an extension to lift the back of your head: 
                     "صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ لَمْ أَرَهُمَا قَوْمٌ مَعَهُمْ سِيَاطٌ كَأَذْنَابِ الْبَقَرِ يَضْرِبُونَ بِهَا النَّاسَ وَنِسَاءٌ كَاسِيَاتٌ عَارِيَاتٌ مُمِيلاَتٌ مَائِلاَتٌ رُؤوسُهُنَّ كَأَسْنِمَةِ الْبُخْتِ الْمَائِلَةِ لاَ يَدْخُلْنَ الْجَنَّةَ وَلاَ يَجِدْنَ رِيحَهَا وَإِنَّ رِيحَهَا لَيُوجَدُ مِنْ مَسِيرَةِ كَذَا وَكَذَا" (رواه مسلم)              
                    “Two are the types of the denizens of Hell whom I did not see: people having flogs like the tails of the ox with them and they would be beating people, and the women who would be dressed but appear to be naked, who would be inclined to evil and make their husbands incline towards it. Their heads would be like the humps of the (bukht) camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they would not smell its odor whereas its odor would be smelt from such and such distance” (Muslim)
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                    13. Salute or touch non-mahram men (no handshaking): This applies to your cousins and colleagues as well.
                    14. Laugh excessively and in a loud voice in presence of non-mahrams: You are supposed to have a level of seriousness in public and not make giggly conversations with males.
                    15. Make unnecessary talks with men: This does not mean to never interact with non-mahram men, yet you are urged to do it in boundaries of seriousness and importance.
                    16. Dance in public: Not even on occasions! Be aware of the way you move your body in public, because we are requested to be decent and courteous.
                    17. Post your pictures excessively and in certain poses: Social media is like the street. It is a public space that everyone has access to, so take care of yourself and be very picky in choosing what to share. 

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                      The purpose of hijab is to conceal, protect, divert the sight and set a standard that a hijabi is a practicing Muslim and knows her self-worth. There is a major difference between a woman that wears hijab as a ritual, and another that wears it for pleasing Allah, so reconsider your intentions and transmit that in your appearance. You can still dress nice and be pretty, yet not provocative.  It is not up to our desires to shape what Allah has legislated and what his prophet (ﷺ) has clarified.

                       And if this is not the time to correct our hijab and improve ourselves, then when is the time? Do not let shaitan (the devil) or life temptations take over you, yet be the pious practicing hijabi and do not be afraid to show it. Hijab is not a fashion accessory, and we want to wear it without falling into sins that may decrease or hinder our Ajer. Let us wear the correct hijab and behave as it orders us. Let us fear Allah in Dunyah to be safe and secure on the day of judgment. 

                      Do not be a role model for others in an incomplete Muslim woman image that they might look upon and follow, so you would be getting their sins. Be a good example for your daughter, students, family or even to everyone you meet, and grant yourself Ajer, always…

                      ✨We are all negligent on a certain level with our hijab, so May Allah help us to fulfill its ultimate rules and grant us the highest levels in Paradise.✨


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